Today has been rough for a lot of people. In fact, it’s been a rough week or so for many people I know. As  you can imagine, my weekend had its ups and downs between a funeral one day and frivolity the next. Monday, of course, has hit me like a proverbial train and after consulting with some friends, I decided to start spilling some secrets. Nothing big, of course, just how I try to bring myself out of the dumps I find myself in. We’re still talking proverbial here as I try to avoid actual dumps – not like that! What are you, five?

Okay! So, let’s start with something super serious. My grandmother’s funeral was on Saturday. I may have bawled my eyes out. I don’t know what it is about funeral homes, but they turn me into a watering pot. My eyes were so puffy Saturday night. It was ridiculous. My brother, sister-in-law, and I decided that the solution for our collective blues was to play some super up-beat and obnoxious music. Fortunately for everyone involved, I happened to have just the thing.

Once upon a time, my mother was baby-sitting this little girl who loved super-bouncy and annoying music. She was particularly fond of some of the songs associated with popular internet memes. As I am a nice daughter (and because I was asked), I made a playlist full of these fun songs. Like the famous “Badger Badger” from Weebl’s Stuff and the infamous “Hampster Dance.” I went all out. Anyway, I still have these songs on my iPod and have subsequently made a playlist out of them and a bunch of other internet-famous songs. That’s what I played as we sat in the car on the way to the burial and then to the church for the post-funeral luncheon. It was pretty awesome to sit there in the car with the two of them, bouncing and singing along with the earwormy goodness. We needed the light-hearted goofiness and we were smiling bright and big before too long. Sometimes, it’s just the right bit of music that can yank you from darkness into the bright sunshine.

I spent Saturday night on my own at home. We’d driven back after lunch since we all had plans on Sunday. I watched the season premiere of “Orphan Black” (omg! SO GOOD!) and then popped in one of my traditional Easter movies: Winnie the Pooh: Springtime With Roo. As I wrote about a few weeks ago, I find movies to be comforting and a good way to perk up my mood when I need a nudge. As I type this, I may be watching The Many Adventures of Winnie the Pooh (I just got the Blu-ray and the colors are so pretty!). It’s been that kind of day.

Well, sometimes movies aren’t really an option. Sometimes, you’ve got stuff to do like social plans. That’s good, though, because sometimes socialization is just what’s needed. Yesterday, for example, I got to have a lot of laughs and fun with some great people. I know that there have been times when I’ve just needed some time with those near and dear to me to set me to rights. A good laugh and some conversation can help me when I’m feeling low. If you’re in an unhappy spot, reach out to someone. You never know if that might make all the difference.

Other blues-remedies include chocolate (mmmmm) or other treats and going outside to walk in the sunshine. Contrary to popular belief, I don’t ignite in sunshine. I just burn easily. That said, I do enjoy a walk in the outdoors from time to time. Fresh air does wonders to clear the mind. Sometimes, if I’m feeling really out of sorts, I clean. Having tidied surroundings can help unclutter a clouded mind. Or something that sounds really profound.

Well, those are a few ways I deal with feeling out of sorts. When I can’t do any of those things, I just take a deep breath and remind myself that these things will pass and that tomorrow is bound to be better. I hope that the random stuff I wrote today helps some people. It helped me put some things in perspective. So, yay for that! I promise to get back to super geeky blogging stuff soon. If there’s anything you want me to write about or any lists or events you think I should know about, feel free to suggest them in the comments or on my Facebook page. I’d love to hear from you guys.



  • micahp

    This is great. In my work with people with a diagnosed mental illness, we frequently put together lists of things they can do to help their mood. Exercise, sunshine, changing their environment…all things that frequently show up. Another is simple mindfulness meditation:

    Close your eyes, focus on your breathing, and think about something, anything that makes you smile. It could be the sight of a bright red balloon floating in a clear blue sky, or it could be the satisfaction of a great run in a game of Borderlands. Anything that puts a smile on your face. Do that for five minutes a day.